We know some Aspies feel very isolated and helpless and we can help you on your journey of sorting out how Asperger Syndrome affects you and the lives of those around you! One of the first steps we recommend is to read, read, read! There is an extensive book list on this site, and we have also recommended the websites we have found to be helpful. Some have forums which can also be very informative and supportive.
For women, we particularly recommend the Women's forum on the GRASP website. The contributors here are mostly women over 40 years of age with new(ish) diagnoses. They are very supportive and encouraging to new members and there is a real feeling of community to be found therein.
The website for ASperger Syndrome New Zealand (www.asnz.exofire.net) contains a brilliant selection of articles and information pertaining to AS.. do have a look at the websites we have listed and see if any of them resonate with you!